My best,
Judith

Judith Steinhart, EdD
Clinical Sexologist
Health and Sexuality Consultant
www.judithsteinhart.com
www.heyjud.com

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I will be showing the work of several artists who have made Vulvart with me.  Linen, cotton, velvet, pearls, fab creations, pillows, and three dimensional collage.  I am so excited.  The women of Barnard College worked with me to make and bring you this collection of original VulvArt!
Special thank you to Kimberlynn Adevedo and the Well Woman Program of Barnard College!

Events Sat evening and all day on Sunday.

The above link will give you additional information.

Come!  Bring friends! See you there!

 
My best,
Judith

Judith Steinhart, EdD
Clinical Sexologist
Health and Sexuality Consultant
www.judithsteinhart.com
www.heyjud.com

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At Long Island's Fabulous Dreaming Tree!
728 Fort Salonga Rd.,
Northport, NY, 11768

Register and get more information at 631-651-8298
$99.00,including refreshments and lunch.
Celebrating Your Sexual Self!

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Come, bring friends, make art!

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Sex and Cancer: A Guide for Partners - MORE Magazine Perhaps it's the partner who is worried about resuming sex after breast cancer.... View >>

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Thomas Jane plays Ray in the HBO series "Hung."

Chuck Hodes

One of the deeper questions the show asks its viewers to consider is what women really want.

Ray, the main character in the new HBO show  “Hung," is a high school teacher, coach, and a has-been high school basketball star whose options have become limited since his divorce from his former high school cheerleader wife. His atypical teenage kids no longer live with him, and his parents' lakeside house, dwarfed by newer McMansions, burns in an electrical fire. Now living in a tent. Ray gets his “aha!” moment during a Get Rich Quick seminar. He believes his only marketable asset is his well-sized penis (which is left to viewers' imagination). Tanya, a poet taking the seminar, decides she can market him by starting a business for women as a Happiness Consultant, i.e., his pimp.

One of the deeper questions the show asks its viewers, and Ray, to consider is what women really want. Do they want a super well-endowed man? Of course, the women who hire him are wowed indeed by his penis size.  But the series’ most tender moment so far occurs when Ray, who usually displays little depth and empathy, is his bedding of a shy, matronly, married woman, played by the outstanding actress, Margo Martindale, to whom he is clearly not attracted. Ray leaves her hotel room once, telling her he has a cold. Later, aware that he needs cash, he returns to work to try again. Molly asks to see his penis, and, after being appropriately wowed, tells him that her husband has a small penis. Molly becomes reticent and tells Ray that he can go and that she would pay him. But, Ray, to his credit at that moment, believably assures her that being with her right then was just where he wants to be. At that moment, the way Ray treats Molly is much more compelling, and erotic, than his penis size.

Okay, penis size does matter to some, and this is the show’s hook. Sometimes it matters to men. They measure their masculinity by their size. Sometimes it matters to women. But Ray’s tenderness, Molly’s feelings of being wanted, and the trust Ray generates, allows Molly to feel more sexual pleasure than the size of his equipment (which the audience is left to imagine) would generate. When you think about what women want, these few scenes of “Hung”, Episode 4, provide genuine pleasure, for characters and viewers alike.

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http://www.more.com/2039/7256-want-a-partner--read-this

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I wrote but didn't post this before Crains article came out....
http://www.crainsnewyork.com/article/20090531/FREE/305319991

Then I found this:  The New York Post had a summary of this article

http://www.nypost.com/seven/06012009/news/nationalnews/stores_ditch_big_size_duds_171902.htm with a terrible first sentence and some terrific comments by readers.

The New York Times will have a similar article with a different perspective this week.  So my thoughts, and my expereinces, are timely!

Here it is: 

How can women be expected to celebrate their body when there are so many barriers?
70% of American women are size 12 or above.

Where do they shop? Where and how do they find fab styles and terrific looks?
Where are the stores with a large, huge, generous, ample, broad selection of fashionable, fitted, stylish clothing made with natural fibers that don't shrink, and fit big, curvy women?

Clothes for big women are often whimpy pastels, baby pink, baby blue, super large patterns, with large ruffles, unflattering short sleeve lengths, made the way maternity clothes were made in the '50s.

Clothing stores are no longer carrying larger sizes. The famous Loehman 's opened their NYC Upper West Side store with no larger sizes. I was told that only their 7th Avenue location in NYC carried larger sizes. When I went in last week, I learned from a salesperson that Loehman's 7th Avenue location no longer carries larger sizes, and hasn't for months.

The Gap and Banana Republic no longer carry size 16 in the stores. Only online.
Ann Taylor no longer makes size 16 available in the stores. Only on-line.

Are these merchants ashamed that or embarrassed about larger women frequenting their stores?  Do they think larger women stay at home hiding behind their computers, and order clothing online, with money to burn for mail order and returns?
 
Even in specialty stores, (Lane Bryant, Avenue), larger size outfits are cut in boxy shapes, as if women were shaped without curves, or as though the curves needed to be covered up.  These hide-your-body clothes, similar to muumuus, masses of shapeless fabric, render women shapeless, curveless or blob-like, rather than marvelous, sexy, elegant, professional, or hip.

And don't even get me started about bras! There's plenty of material for another blog....

Ok, The Good News!

Recently, I did find and fit into terrific pants in brown, on sale at Talbots, (http://www.talbots.com) in the misses, not women's, sale rack.
I also found perfect linen and also denim capris on sale at Lane Bryant, and some cotton tops (a bit too boxy, but they'll do).

Now, The GREAT News!!!!

And while visiting San Francisco, Randi, my good friend, fellow shopper, (Randi has STYLE), and generous hostess, and I stopped into a hidden gem! Go Figure (http://www.gofigure.com) in the Richmond.  Great selection gawjus clothes, sensuous fabrics. Yes, the prices are a bit higher, but the selection was broad and varied, full of natural fibers, fitted and not so fitted styles, with a warm, smiling, curvy woman with style and a smile, ready to pitch in a get to work with me.  For the icing on the cake, they had a terrific sale rack. I bought a reversible burgundy to black, solid color, down-like jacket, with a hood, that looks and fastens like a short kimono.  It comes with a matching carry-on bag.  I'll see if I can take a photo to add to this blog. Randi also tried on tops and jackets that rocked the house!

I wish I lived closer, or that they had an east coast branch.  But you can buy through the mail.

In the meantime, if you need help, I would suggest contacting two NYC based stylists:

• The beautiful, kind, resourceful, put together Silfath Pinto at Sense Your Style, http://www.senseyourstyle.com/about_silfath (see her before and after shots of clients, consentually taken, of course.)  and/or

• The seasoned, smart, stylish, and accessible, Catherine Schuller, http://www.facebook.com/people/Catherine-Schuller/701802325, who also has an organization for women with diabetes, called, Divabetic. 

I feel privileged, and lucky, to have found them both, and I personally guarantee your wardrobe and attitude will be in good shape and in good hands, when working with them.

Let me know what you learn and find, and where you find it!
Thinking of you, all of you, bigger you are, the more there is to rock,
Jud
(check out, http://www.heyjud.com, my relationship and sexuality Q&A blog)

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This was the invitation:

Body, Sex, and Soul - An Afternoon Tea for Women on the Last Sunday in May

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Thank you for giving me so much!  Health, longevity, perspective, and your hearts.

What Are Friends For? A Longer Life

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Emergency Contraception is safe, legal, and available. It works-- the sooner you take the better!

Teens and women can get it at low cost or even free at some clinics.

WOMEN OF CHILDBEARING AGE:  It makes sense to get it IN ADVANCE of needing it. This way, it's ready when you need it.

1 888 NOT 2 LATE for additional information.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090423/ap_on_he_me/us_morning_after_pill
 

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Half day, only $25!
Still time to register!
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Join us!

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I'm happy to post this since Andrea asked me.  Andrea has been Barbar's Sher's right hand person for over 15 years.  I have followed Barbara Sher's career for about 30 years.  Barbara Sher (www.barbarasher.com) wrote "Wishcraft" 30 years ago, and for me it was a life changer. I was in a success team fairly recently, and it's where I learned about Idea Parties!

So I cannot endorse this enough.  Andrea also said that she will provide a discount to those who mention my name.  But this is for YOU!

From Andrea:

Hi,

I’m very happy to announce that I’ll be running a Wednesday evening Success Team in a lovely, cozy apartment on West 86th Street. All registration details, including the meeting schedule, are lower down in this email. The first meeting will be on April 22nd, 7-9pm.

Success Teams were designed by NY Times best-selling author Barbara Sher 25 years ago and have been run all over the world with extraordinary success ever since then. Some people join Success Teams because they have no idea what they want to do, or only vague clues. Others know what they want but have not been able to get it for a variety of reasons.

As Barbara Sher says, "Isolation is the dream killer". If you've been trying to go after your dreams all by yourself,  it is only natural if you've had trouble keeping yourself moving forward, because we all need lots of help from others to go after our dreams.  You'll be amazed by how much more you'll be able to accomplish within a small, nurturing group.

Success Teams are small focused groups of no more than 6 people that provide just the right kind of support and structure to move everyone ahead. Success Teams have helped literally thousands of people over the past 30 years make remarkable changes in their lives. Benjamin Disraeli said, “Most people go to their graves with their music still in them.”

I would be thrilled to help you find your music and share it with the rest of us.

I have been Barbara Sher’s personal assistant for 15 years and the Certified NYC Success Team leader for 10 years, and have run over 50 groups. The Success Team approach was instrumental in helping me accomplish one of my own dream projects, my one woman play about Jackie Kennedy (http://www.jackieoshow.com), and it is thrilling for me to be able to teach this approach to others and watch them move through resistance and make their dreams happen. Your dreams are an integral part of who you are and when you step into your dreams, you inspire everyone around you.If you’d like to learn more about Success Teams, visit Barbara Sher’s site, http://www.shersuccessteams.comThe next Success Team will meet on Wednesdays from 7-9pm, starting April 21st and skipping May 27th, so the meetings will fall on these dates:

4/22, 4/29, 5/6, 5/13, 5/20, 6/3, 6/10, 6/17

The price for the 8 week program is $350. I take people on a first-come first-served basis and must receive your check in order to hold your spot. Teams have a maximum of 6 members.Many good wishes.

Andrea Reese, Barbara Sher's Assistant

NYC Certified Success Team Leader                                                                                                                                                  Director of the Success Team Program

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PLEASE FILL OUT THIS FORM AND MAIL IT  BY REGULAR MAIL (not fedex, since I might not be here to sign for it)  WITH YOUR CHECK for $350 MADE OUT TO ANDREA REESE TO:

ANDREA REESE                                                                                                                                                                                                    25-11 34th Street, #5                                                                                                                                      Astoria, NY  11103

Attn: Success Team Registration

Name:

Address:

Phone:

Email:

Website (if available):

Important: Please include with your payment the answers to these 4 questions, which you can either type in here and then print out, or print out and then hand-write. Short is fine, no pressure, just want to learn a bit about you.

• Why do you want to join a Success Team?
• Have you ever been in any type of goal achievement group before and, if so, was it helpful and how?
• If you are currently working, is there anything you like about your job, and, if so, what?
• Do you remember what you wanted to be as a child and, if so, what?

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Some of you may be wondering about Tracy's and my wine and chocolate tasting and sexuality/sensuality interactive workshop. Mostly we had two hours of fun, tastes, smiles, grimaces, and laughter.

It reminds me of a recent retreat I attended for sexuality educators and trainers. I facilitated the last exercise, something new for our group. At the end of 90 minutes,  when it was clear that the group was delighted, a "star" raised her hand and asked the others, "Did anyone else think this was gonna suck?"  Of course, we all laughed, but part of me also believed her....

So I've listed guests' statistics from the most recent "Sex, Wine and Chocolate":

• 100% said the presentation was from Good to Very Good to Excellent.

• 91% said they would come to another of our events.

• 100% said that they would recommend this event to others.
  

And they gave us ideas about the next time we did this, which included more wine!

"...Loved the wines and chocolates that were offered; liked that the wines and chocolates were unique and not popular options."

"Loved the location, convenient, very nice, welcoming (In the future, may need more room

"You women are both great!"

Perhaps next time, you'll join us!  Or please think of us for a bachelorette party, divorce party, birthday party, or just for fun.  Oh yes, we also offer this for couples of any gender(s)!

My best to you all,
Judith

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