Judith Steinhart

My best,
Judith

Judith Steinhart, EdD
Clinical Sexologist
Health and Sexuality Consultant
www.judithsteinhart.com
www.heyjud.com

http://www.newviewcampaign.org/vulvagraphics.asp

I will be showing the work of several artists who have made Vulvart with me.  Linen, cotton, velvet, pearls, fab creations, pillows, and three dimensional collage.  I am so excited.  The women of Barnard College worked with me to make and bring you this collection of original VulvArt!
Special thank you to Kimberlynn Adevedo and the Well Woman Program of Barnard College!

Events Sat evening and all day on Sunday.

The above link will give you additional information.

Come!  Bring friends! See you there!

 
My best,
Judith

Judith Steinhart, EdD
Clinical Sexologist
Health and Sexuality Consultant
www.judithsteinhart.com
www.heyjud.com

At Long Island's Fabulous Dreaming Tree!
728 Fort Salonga Rd.,
Northport, NY, 11768

Register and get more information at 631-651-8298
$99.00,including refreshments and lunch.
Celebrating Your Sexual Self!

Click here to download:

VulvArtFINAL.pdf (197 KB)

Come, bring friends, make art!

by Hey Jud Guest Writer {View Profile}

Thomas Jane plays Ray in the HBO series "Hung."

Chuck Hodes

One of the deeper questions the show asks its viewers to consider is what women really want.

Ray, the main character in the new HBO show  “Hung," is a high school teacher, coach, and a has-been high school basketball star whose options have become limited since his divorce from his former high school cheerleader wife. His atypical teenage kids no longer live with him, and his parents' lakeside house, dwarfed by newer McMansions, burns in an electrical fire. Now living in a tent. Ray gets his “aha!” moment during a Get Rich Quick seminar. He believes his only marketable asset is his well-sized penis (which is left to viewers' imagination). Tanya, a poet taking the seminar, decides she can market him by starting a business for women as a Happiness Consultant, i.e., his pimp.

One of the deeper questions the show asks its viewers, and Ray, to consider is what women really want. Do they want a super well-endowed man? Of course, the women who hire him are wowed indeed by his penis size.  But the series’ most tender moment so far occurs when Ray, who usually displays little depth and empathy, is his bedding of a shy, matronly, married woman, played by the outstanding actress, Margo Martindale, to whom he is clearly not attracted. Ray leaves her hotel room once, telling her he has a cold. Later, aware that he needs cash, he returns to work to try again. Molly asks to see his penis, and, after being appropriately wowed, tells him that her husband has a small penis. Molly becomes reticent and tells Ray that he can go and that she would pay him. But, Ray, to his credit at that moment, believably assures her that being with her right then was just where he wants to be. At that moment, the way Ray treats Molly is much more compelling, and erotic, than his penis size.

Okay, penis size does matter to some, and this is the show’s hook. Sometimes it matters to men. They measure their masculinity by their size. Sometimes it matters to women. But Ray’s tenderness, Molly’s feelings of being wanted, and the trust Ray generates, allows Molly to feel more sexual pleasure than the size of his equipment (which the audience is left to imagine) would generate. When you think about what women want, these few scenes of “Hung”, Episode 4, provide genuine pleasure, for characters and viewers alike.

http://www.more.com/2039/7256-want-a-partner--read-this

http://www.more.com/2039/7078-sex-after-breast-cancer

I wrote but didn't post this before Crains article came out....
http://www.crainsnewyork.com/article/20090531/FREE/305319991

Then I found this:  The New York Post had a summary of this article

http://www.nypost.com/seven/06012009/news/nationalnews/stores_ditch_big_size_duds_171902.htm with a terrible first sentence and some terrific comments by readers.

The New York Times will have a similar article with a different perspective this week.  So my thoughts, and my expereinces, are timely!

Here it is: 

How can women be expected to celebrate their body when there are so many barriers?
70% of American women are size 12 or above.

Where do they shop? Where and how do they find fab styles and terrific looks?
Where are the stores with a large, huge, generous, ample, broad selection of fashionable, fitted, stylish clothing made with natural fibers that don't shrink, and fit big, curvy women?

Clothes for big women are often whimpy pastels, baby pink, baby blue, super large patterns, with large ruffles, unflattering short sleeve lengths, made the way maternity clothes were made in the '50s.

Clothing stores are no longer carrying larger sizes. The famous Loehman 's opened their NYC Upper West Side store with no larger sizes. I was told that only their 7th Avenue location in NYC carried larger sizes. When I went in last week, I learned from a salesperson that Loehman's 7th Avenue location no longer carries larger sizes, and hasn't for months.

The Gap and Banana Republic no longer carry size 16 in the stores. Only online.
Ann Taylor no longer makes size 16 available in the stores. Only on-line.

Are these merchants ashamed that or embarrassed about larger women frequenting their stores?  Do they think larger women stay at home hiding behind their computers, and order clothing online, with money to burn for mail order and returns?
 
Even in specialty stores, (Lane Bryant, Avenue), larger size outfits are cut in boxy shapes, as if women were shaped without curves, or as though the curves needed to be covered up.  These hide-your-body clothes, similar to muumuus, masses of shapeless fabric, render women shapeless, curveless or blob-like, rather than marvelous, sexy, elegant, professional, or hip.

And don't even get me started about bras! There's plenty of material for another blog....

Ok, The Good News!

Recently, I did find and fit into terrific pants in brown, on sale at Talbots, (http://www.talbots.com) in the misses, not women's, sale rack.
I also found perfect linen and also denim capris on sale at Lane Bryant, and some cotton tops (a bit too boxy, but they'll do).

Now, The GREAT News!!!!

And while visiting San Francisco, Randi, my good friend, fellow shopper, (Randi has STYLE), and generous hostess, and I stopped into a hidden gem! Go Figure (http://www.gofigure.com) in the Richmond.  Great selection gawjus clothes, sensuous fabrics. Yes, the prices are a bit higher, but the selection was broad and varied, full of natural fibers, fitted and not so fitted styles, with a warm, smiling, curvy woman with style and a smile, ready to pitch in a get to work with me.  For the icing on the cake, they had a terrific sale rack. I bought a reversible burgundy to black, solid color, down-like jacket, with a hood, that looks and fastens like a short kimono.  It comes with a matching carry-on bag.  I'll see if I can take a photo to add to this blog. Randi also tried on tops and jackets that rocked the house!

I wish I lived closer, or that they had an east coast branch.  But you can buy through the mail.

In the meantime, if you need help, I would suggest contacting two NYC based stylists:

• The beautiful, kind, resourceful, put together Silfath Pinto at Sense Your Style, http://www.senseyourstyle.com/about_silfath (see her before and after shots of clients, consentually taken, of course.)  and/or

• The seasoned, smart, stylish, and accessible, Catherine Schuller, http://www.facebook.com/people/Catherine-Schuller/701802325, who also has an organization for women with diabetes, called, Divabetic. 

I feel privileged, and lucky, to have found them both, and I personally guarantee your wardrobe and attitude will be in good shape and in good hands, when working with them.

Let me know what you learn and find, and where you find it!
Thinking of you, all of you, bigger you are, the more there is to rock,
Jud
(check out, http://www.heyjud.com, my relationship and sexuality Q&A blog)

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Body, Sex, and Soul - An Afternoon Tea for Women on the Last Sunday in May